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The Pillar of Fairness

The Pillar of Fairness

Orange symbolises the pillar of Fairness. 

"But that's not fair!" This could be one of the most commonly heard complaints of children. I suppose it is still pretty common for adults too.  One who is fair could also be described as wise and graceful, always trying to do what is right. I hope this information will be helpful for you to teach, enforce, and model the concept of fairness to your child. Keep in mind that the concept of fairness can be difficult for children to understand. Sometimes it is easier to point out something that is unfair, rather than something that is fair. It is normal for children to compare themselves to siblings or friends or feel jealous. This does not mean that as the parent you have to fix everything or try to control things so that your child does not have these feelings.

The process of assisting your child’s development of good character goes far beyond just the teachings of one month. Reinforce the principles they are learning even as the month ends. In the long run, your efforts will be rewarded with the satisfaction of seeing your child with a strong character and the ability to do what they know is right.

Key Ideas

  • Fairness and Justice: This means to be fair and just in dealing with everyone; treat everyone equally. Make decisions without playing favorites and don't take advantage of others. Don't blame others carelessly or unjustly. Take only your fair share, take turns, and share with others.
  • Sportsmanship: Play by the rules, be honest in your judgments of scoring and penalties, and take turns. Make sure that teams are set up equally. Let competition guide you to do your best, not get the best of the opponents. Win and lose graciously.
  • Openness: Keep an open mind and hear people out. Listen to what others have to say and get the facts before you decide your feelings or opinions on the matter. In a disagreement, try to see the other person's side.

Ways to Treat People Fairly

  • Find ways to share, take turns, and feel less jealous.
  • Ask people what you can do to help make things fairer.
  • Include others in games and activities; don't leave people out.
  • Respect people who are different from you.

Signs of Fairness

You will be able to tell that your child is developing a sense of fairness if they…

  • take turns regularly when playing with other children
  • share toys consistently when playing with other children
  • follow the rules when they are playing games
  • listen attentively to another person's point of view
  • accept consequences of misbehavior

When you see these behaviors, make sure to praise and encourage them. It will continue if they know it is being noticed and they will feel even better about themselves for doing the right thing.

For You To Consider

It is more important to try to understand why your children think the way they do and what their issues are than to try to rectify the situation.


"It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself." - Eleanor Roosevelt